Intention |
31.03.06 |
Who’s really got the edge in this dating game? Is it the men or the women? Who’s got the bigger handicap?
One guy says, “Women have it easier. They can just wait and look pretty. We have to do most of the work. They just have to choose.”
One girl says, “Men have it better. Especially if they aren’t looking for love but just a lay (which is often the case), there are hundreds of women out there they can choose from. They just select and collect from the fillies they see”.
That’s the crux of it! Men look for fun and just maybe stumble on one that will last. Women, no matter what they say, get their emotions involved and are really out looking for long term relationship. While they all flirt and preen, the goals are different.
Guy says, “Problem is I can’t even get the girls I want to give me their attention”. There’s hope! Aside from Queer Eye for the Straight Guy, there are online sites that have hundreds of dating tips and suggestions to help you become more attractive to the ladies.
Can’t emphasize enough that you have to be clear on what your intentions are. If you just want to have some fun, you should definitely avoid the women who talk about having your babies on the first date. Same goes for the ones who begin plotting what your wedding will look like.
Dating is a skill just like walking or talking. Truth is you’ll never get good at it ’til you practice. Yes you may bomb out a few times but what will it matter. Aim to have a great time with who you’re with no matter what and you’ll be all set.
Online Dating Tips and Advice |
31.03.06 |
Online dating is one of the easiest ways to meet people. Simply join an online dating site (you’ll find plenty of them on www.dating.info, one of the world’s most comprehensive dating resources), create an account, and you’re good to go. But there are just a few tips that will make this naturally fun ride a little less bumpy. Here we go!
- Create a separate email, and choose an address that does not reveal your real name. This gives you privacy, and also helps you keep your business and personal correspondence separate. Considering that you may get hundreds of emails a day, you’ll appreciate that kind of organization.
- Don’t give your private information in your profile or early on in your correspondence. This includes your last name, personal email, home address, work address, or position and company. And if you want to talk to each other on the phone, sign up for a service that will block your number from Caller ID, or talk on the cell phone instead.
- Be honest in your ads and email correspondence. Lying will only attract people who aren’t your true match; they’ll fall in love with the fake you, and then if you do develop a relationship, you’ll face that uncomfortable task of telling them that you’re not who they think you are.
- Don’t answer emails on the same day. You don’t want to look too desperate. Wait a bit, whet their appetite, and let them know you have a life outside of the Internet. A two to three day wait is just right: you’re not being rude, but you don’t look too needy, either. Besides, when they’re waiting, they’re interest grows: they’ll be imagining what you said, wondering about your reaction.
- If you do decide to meet up with someone you met through Internet dating, meet in a public place and inform a friend where you’re going. Schedule it in for lunch or coffee, rather than dinner. At least he won’t have to bring you home and find out where you live, and if the date bombs it’s easier to think of the excuse that you have a meeting. For additional safety, you can even ask some friends to have lunch in the same restaurant (they’ll probably be curious about him anyway!â€
- Watch out for warning signs that the person you’re taking to is, to put it mildly, “a little nuts.†This includes flashes of temper, being pressuring or controlling, rude and demeaning remarks, inconsistent facts about age, interests, employment, etc., refusal to give direct answers. You can also actively try to “test†the person’s consistency by intentionally making a mistake when referring to something he said in the past. For example, if he said that he had a Labrador Retriever when he was growing up in a farm in Texas, casually say in a line, “Oh, I saw the most adorable sheepdog in the pet store, and I thought of you!â€
How to Create Great Online Dating Profiles |
31.03.06 |
Making an unforgettable online dating profile is a lot like making an unforgettable ad. Just like that 30-second TV commercial that sells you that new brand of tooth paste, you have to
- Stand out in the middle of a sea of profiles
- Attract their interest in the first sentence so they’re not tempted to click on to the next person on their list
- Arouse (pun not intended) their curiosity enough so that they want to find out more, and then
- Make them email you.







