Why should you get married to someone? Is it enough to say because I enjoy her company and we make each other laugh? The more your mind fuzzes over when you think of this person you think is special, the more you need to think with your mind, not your heart. Some things to avoid are:

• Getting married because a baby is on the way. In this day and age, the issue of in or out of wedlock is not such a stigma. It is worse for the child if you marry and divorce. Why make three of you unhappy?
• Getting married just for companionship. If you’re lonely keep dating, make lots of friends or have a pet. The truth is no one is permanently there. Everyone will come to the end of their lifetime. Isn’t it better to find someone to whom you are the sun and not just the travelling companion?
• He’ll give me what I want. Monetary and physical attributes aren’t the only things in life. While they play a role in your relationship, there is much more to a marriage than wealth and passion. Don’t settle for just the creature comforts.
• Getting married because it’s your duty or obligation. Whether it’s to continue the family line or because of some will written up by some lawyers, in the end, you will have to live with this person. Respect is good but it sure makes for a cold bed.

Bottom line: marry because you have found someone with whom you can build a lifetime of great memories. Look for someone with whom you can look into each other’s eyes and have a whole conversation. Find the one to whom you are not just a fairytale figure or a source of income. Make sure you are also true, then you’ll have a shot at making a marriage work.