She walks into the room and your heart begins to pound. You get so dizzy you can’t think straight. Problem is she thinks of you as an older brother.

Man, it sucks! You’re the first person she runs to when she needs help. She cries on your shoulder every time there’s a problem with her boyfriend; but in the end, even after they split up, you might as well be an invisible man.

First off, guys, have you told her how you feel? Have you tried asking her out on a date? How will she ever think you’re a match if you don’t say anything? She isn’t a mind reader you know. You may be so good at projecting your brotherly image that she can’t see you as anything but family.

You can be a good friend without her seeing you as kin. Unfortunately, you somehow missed the mark and became too familiar. She’ll need to see you in a different light before she can see you as something more.

Second, do you really want to risk losing your friendship? Let’s face it, once lovers, never just friends. Too much intimate knowledge can be a bad thing. You never see the person just the way they are. It tends to color one’s perception of people, no matter how we try not to let it. Are you prepared to lose the closeness you have if the relationship doesn’t work out?

It’s actually possible that at some point she wondered about havig a relationship with you. Typically though, most women won’t act on those feelings. You’d need to make the first move. There is no guarantee that she will feel the same.