What You Won’t Do, Do For Love |
06.04.06 |
The way Cher sings it, “If you wanna know if he loves you so it’s in his kiss” and it may be so. The truth is it isn’t that easy to tell. In this time of instant dates and more open values, it is quite easy to be fooled by con men/women that are so good at making you feel like you are the king or queen of their life while they fool around with someone else or just take you for a ride.
Some ways that you can tell that some people are serious about the relationship; they put you through the litmus test: friends and family. For example, single parents will expose you to their kids and check your reaction to the kids’ antics. If you’re invited over to join them on a family activity again is a good sign. If you’re dating someone of a different faith, being asked to attend a family event such as a bar mitzvah can be indicative of the direction your relationship is going; and yes, you’ll be under all those watchful eyes.
Men aren’t as easy to read as women, if you’re the kind who looks for signs. They are really more into fun and games. As one of the boys put it, “It should always be fun. Once it becomes serious, it’s no fun, we say goodbye”. Men aren’t as demonstrative or touchy as women. They aren’t as affectionate verbally, and if they say those three words so fast, doubt it.
The best way to know if he means it is to watch what he does. When a man feels he’s met his match, he’ll do crazy things to get and keep her. They will go out of their way to be where she is and go the extra mile just to make her smile. They will move mountains and not count the cost. They will show you that you are their sun and their moon though they may not say it. So take the time and learn each other’s habits well ‘coz that’s where it is.
Online Dating Tips and Advice |
31.03.06 |
Online dating is one of the easiest ways to meet people. Simply join an online dating site (you’ll find plenty of them on www.dating.info, one of the world’s most comprehensive dating resources), create an account, and you’re good to go. But there are just a few tips that will make this naturally fun ride a little less bumpy. Here we go!
- Create a separate email, and choose an address that does not reveal your real name. This gives you privacy, and also helps you keep your business and personal correspondence separate. Considering that you may get hundreds of emails a day, you’ll appreciate that kind of organization.
- Don’t give your private information in your profile or early on in your correspondence. This includes your last name, personal email, home address, work address, or position and company. And if you want to talk to each other on the phone, sign up for a service that will block your number from Caller ID, or talk on the cell phone instead.
- Be honest in your ads and email correspondence. Lying will only attract people who aren’t your true match; they’ll fall in love with the fake you, and then if you do develop a relationship, you’ll face that uncomfortable task of telling them that you’re not who they think you are.
- Don’t answer emails on the same day. You don’t want to look too desperate. Wait a bit, whet their appetite, and let them know you have a life outside of the Internet. A two to three day wait is just right: you’re not being rude, but you don’t look too needy, either. Besides, when they’re waiting, they’re interest grows: they’ll be imagining what you said, wondering about your reaction.
- If you do decide to meet up with someone you met through Internet dating, meet in a public place and inform a friend where you’re going. Schedule it in for lunch or coffee, rather than dinner. At least he won’t have to bring you home and find out where you live, and if the date bombs it’s easier to think of the excuse that you have a meeting. For additional safety, you can even ask some friends to have lunch in the same restaurant (they’ll probably be curious about him anyway!â€
- Watch out for warning signs that the person you’re taking to is, to put it mildly, “a little nuts.†This includes flashes of temper, being pressuring or controlling, rude and demeaning remarks, inconsistent facts about age, interests, employment, etc., refusal to give direct answers. You can also actively try to “test†the person’s consistency by intentionally making a mistake when referring to something he said in the past. For example, if he said that he had a Labrador Retriever when he was growing up in a farm in Texas, casually say in a line, “Oh, I saw the most adorable sheepdog in the pet store, and I thought of you!â€
How I met Your Mother |
27.03.06 |
Years from now what would the story you’ll tell your kids be like. In the old days it was, “We were introduced by your Uncle Vinnie and the marriage was arranged for us by your grandma”. Now it’s, “We met through an online dating service”.
The internet has opened up a whole wide world of possibilities with the web. Romance is no longer limited to finding your match through the conventional means of introduction by well intentioned relatives. It can now be done by personal ads online.
There’s a match for everyone under the sun and distance or age is no longer a barrier. Your family demands that you marry someone Jewish but there are no Jews in your neighborhood that you like? Then go online and search for someone that you like and can bring home to mother. This is true for any race, religion or gender.
Where fidelity used to be really important, in this day and age the relationships seem to have become more elastic. There are online sites that cater to married people who want to date again. Loneliness can be a thing of the past if you are willing to give technology a chance to play cupid.
Of course you’ll never be quite sure what you’re getting into til you actually meet your date. You may end up dating your dad just like in the movie “Must Have Dogs”. You could discover that you’re dating someone half your age or someone who looks nothing like their picture.; after all it’s possible they didn’t create the site themselves or did it because they fear the rejection if you saw their physical appearance first.
No matter how you meet though, the answer is the same. Love will come into your life only if you let it.







