Dating Should I Stay or Should I Go? |
23.04.06 |
You unexpectedly got out of work early and decide to surprise your sweetheart. You decide to go over to his place and prepare him a fancy dinner. Strangely, his car is in the garage when he’s supposed to be in the office all day. You walk through the house but don’t see him. You do see a trail of clothes…uh oh! You open the bedroom door and catch him in flagrante delicto. What do you do next?
The good news is you can now stop deluding yourself that it hasn’t been happening. The truth is the woman always knows when the guy is fooling around - sixth sense kicks in if no one tells you. Your suspicions have now been confirmed and you can deal with your fears head on.
Now, you may decide to let it pass. It was a one night stand. It was just the one time. It didn’t mean anything, and so on. That’s good. You have a loving heart. Now what if it happens again? If it happens once, it’ll happen again. Maybe not soon, but it will happen again. Do you keep letting it slide?
Can you forgive him each time, even just the one time for betraying your trust? Can you live with the constant fear that he’ll do it again without becoming bitter or hardened? Is the relationship worth saving?
The truth is someone who truly loves you is your friend and your friends would never cheat on you or betray you. They would hold your trust so precious they would not act on the temptation dangling right before their eyes. Martyrdom is for saints.
If you choose to say goodbye, take a breather from relationships. Instead of going on dates and plunging into a new relationship, why not strengthen your family ties or renew bonds with your friends. Take the time to appreciate those who have been loyal to you and who truly love you.
What Are You Really Looking For? |
22.04.06 |
There’s a saying, “be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.” Isn’t it so true? If you know what you want, doesn’t the universe give you the means to achieve it? Think about it. Your dream job, your car, your grades…anything you’ve ever really wanted and were willing to work for, is given to you at the perfect time.
Bet some of you are now going, I want a great looking woman who is kind and sweet. Ladies and gents (for sure some of you ladies were wishing too), it isn’t as simple as that. To make anything come to you, you need to learn to get specific.
Let’s talk about dating. Why are you really in the game? Are you in it just to have fun? Are you in it to find love? Could it be that you are looking for companionship? Whichever the case, you intentions would mean you also have traits that you are looking for.
For example, if all you want is to have fun, then think about what is fun for you and how can this person be a match. Just as if your idea of fun is adventure sports, then a date who is willing to try new sports and may really be into x-games may be who you are looking for.
On the other hand, if you are seriously looking for the person who will be with you for the remainder of your lifetime, what traits would be important to you? Would you like to find someone who is not just a good cook but a chef? Would you like someone who is a great conversationalist? Would you look for someone who is of the same faith?
If you’ll notice, what you’re really looking for is someone who can also be a friend, after all isn’t your mate supposed to be your best friend? In this case, you’d need to truly examine your values and figure out what is really important to you.
Don’t just say you want someone sexy and charming. That is too vague and won’t really helpful in helping you find your match. Even if it’s a bother, be very clear on what you want. The better you know what you look for in a mate, the easier it is to create your personal ad and find dates. You would know exactly what to ask at speed dates and how to recognize if it could possibly this one.
New Territory |
15.04.06 |
Are you beginning to despair? Are you beginning to believe the spinster jokes thrown your way? Do you honestly believe that your soulmate may not have been born because you can’t seem to find our other half?
Check if any of these reasons sound like a logical reason why you haven’t found your match:
- The person for you may be quite shy and doesn’t date much. Not everyone is comfortable hanging out on a friday night. Rather than be a wallflower at a party, he may prefer to be behind his computer screen.
- He may live quite a distance from you in which case thank goodness for the internet. Just imagine if your mate is someone who lives in the country of your dreams. There may be a reason why you took all those language lessons when you knew you wouldn’t get to use it much at home when you enrolled. Long distance romances have been known to happen (and more frequently now that the world wide web is in place).
- Could your match be in the same physical form as you? Maybe you’re looking in the wrong place because your upbringing firmly says the only place to find a relationship is in a heterosexual relationship
- What if your match is already married?Let’s face it, a lot of people get married too soon and then regret it. If you’ve only been interested in singles, then yes, you will overlook your possible match.Why not check out those who’ve been once bitten. Advantage, they are more clear on what they want in a relationship.
Don’t give up yet. Get into online dating before you call it a night. Love may just be an internet connection away!
