Dating Urbanite or Rugged Good Looks |
28.03.06 |
“Do women really prefer these made over guys shown in Queer Eye for the Straight Guy? Does that mean if you have a more rugged look it’s hopeless?” That was the question asked recently by a friend over coffee. “Do they really prefer the yuppie looking dandy over rugged, good looks”.
Finding a match can be like looking for a needle in a haystack and when the women were asked the answers were as varied as the women. Some liked them “citified”. Others liked them a little bit country. Some said they wanted men who were men.
One woman explained it very well. As Penny explains it no matter what he looks like in terms of God-given endowments, it’s what he did to maximize it that makes a difference to the women. Generally, everyone likes their dates clean, basic hygiene is a must, but the scent of sweat especially on a hunky guy can be very appealing.
Dressing well is also a plus but not a necessity. It just means that you get the ladies attention faster, in a good way and not as a clown. Some men look great with long hair and a beard. It can actually make them more “manly” but trimming is definitely a must. Who wants a date with the ZZ Top?
Shows like Queer Eye are actually great for both the men and the women because it’s about more than just the looks (keep it up Fab5!) The girls appreciate that they try to help the guys become a bit more well rounded, improve the look of their home and give them some culture. Girls love men who are always willing to learn something new and try it out (and it’s not necessarily the daring stuff like X Games!)
How I met Your Mother |
27.03.06 |
Years from now what would the story you’ll tell your kids be like. In the old days it was, “We were introduced by your Uncle Vinnie and the marriage was arranged for us by your grandma”. Now it’s, “We met through an online dating service”.
The internet has opened up a whole wide world of possibilities with the web. Romance is no longer limited to finding your match through the conventional means of introduction by well intentioned relatives. It can now be done by personal ads online.
There’s a match for everyone under the sun and distance or age is no longer a barrier. Your family demands that you marry someone Jewish but there are no Jews in your neighborhood that you like? Then go online and search for someone that you like and can bring home to mother. This is true for any race, religion or gender.
Where fidelity used to be really important, in this day and age the relationships seem to have become more elastic. There are online sites that cater to married people who want to date again. Loneliness can be a thing of the past if you are willing to give technology a chance to play cupid.
Of course you’ll never be quite sure what you’re getting into til you actually meet your date. You may end up dating your dad just like in the movie “Must Have Dogs”. You could discover that you’re dating someone half your age or someone who looks nothing like their picture.; after all it’s possible they didn’t create the site themselves or did it because they fear the rejection if you saw their physical appearance first.
No matter how you meet though, the answer is the same. Love will come into your life only if you let it.
