Differences |
24.04.06 |
When you first met, everything was peachy keen. You were always excited to see each other. You spent hours on the phone. You always wanted to be together. If any of your friends wanted to find you and you weren’t home, they automatically call your mate.
Now, you’re always annoyed with each other. He always forgets to lift the seat before he uses the toilet and to put it back down when he’s done. He snores. She nags. She can’t cook. He’s always watching football. She’s always on the phone with the girls. Blah, blah, blah…the complaints and criticism are never ending.
Early in the relationship, you may be thinking the mannerisms are endearing. He said it was ok, that you guys can order out if you get hungry. She said she understood about your love of sports.
The whole point of dating is to find the person who is a match for you. You’re looking for the person who you not only think you can live with; but who is someone you will choose to be with in spite of his or her foibles. It means really getting to know your dates and if you find something you dislike, deciding early on if the trait is something you can accept or a reason to say goodbye.
It may seem minor but faith may become an issue in your relationship. Most people say it doesn’t matter whether their date is a believer in Mohammad or in Buddha while he is a Jew. Yet if you talk about attending your religious services, they may object to your practicing your faith and passing it on to your future offspring. This is why usually one of the pair converts to match his or her beliefs - keeps the peace and builds unity.
In the end, your differences are what will determine whether you stay together. Will you let his stinky socks drive you away? Think about it hard…the answer may determine if you’re together for better or worse.
Give Me A Reason |
16.04.06 |
Why should you get married to someone? Is it enough to say because I enjoy her company and we make each other laugh? The more your mind fuzzes over when you think of this person you think is special, the more you need to think with your mind, not your heart. Some things to avoid are:
- Getting married because a baby is on the way. In this day and age, the issue of in or out of wedlock is not such a stigma. It is worse for the child if you marry and divorce. Why make three of you unhappy?
- Getting married just for companionship. If you’re lonely keep dating, make lots of friends or have a pet. The truth is no one is permanently there. Everyone will come to the end of their lifetime. Isn’t it better to find someone to whom you are the sun and not just the travelling companion?
- He’ll give me what I want. Monetary and physical attributes aren’t the only things in life. While they play a role in your relationship, there is much more to a marriage than wealth and passion. Don’t settle for just the creature comforts.
- Getting married because it’s your duty or obligation. Whether it’s to continue the family line or because of some will written up by some lawyers, in the end, you will have to live with this person. Respect is good but it sure makes for a cold bed.
Bottom line: marry because you have found someone with whom you can build a lifetime of great memories. Look for someone with whom you can look into each other’s eyes and have a whole conversation. Find the one to whom you are not just a fairytale figure or a source of income. Make sure you are also true, then you’ll have a shot at making a marriage work.
Planning a Rehearsal Dinner |
28.03.06 |
The rehearsal dinner is one element of the wedding planning that can be confusing for the future bride and groom. Questions such as do we really have to have a rehearsal dinner, what do we do at the rehearsal dinner, who pays for the rehearsal dinner, who is invited to the rehearsal dinner and do we have to invite out of town guests are planning questions that remain unanswered for many couples. While the rehearsal dinner may just seem like another expense and another task that needs to be completed, it’s important to not skip out on this wonderful opportunity to get together with close friends and family members for a night of relaxation in a casual atmosphere before the wedding. This article is intended to answer some of the questions surrounding the planning of a rehearsal dinner and to provide the couple with some necessary information to help them plan a successful rehearsal dinner.
While a rehearsal dinner is not necessary, it is a good opportunity to get together with close friends and family members to thank them all for their participation and assistance during the planning of the wedding as well as their participation in the actual wedding itself. The rehearsal dinner gives the couple the chance to extend their thanks to everyone who has been involved with the wedding planning or who has simply supported them in their efforts. The rehearsal dinner can also be the opportunity to relax and unwind before the wedding. The couple is able to put aside their concerns over their upcoming nuptials and enjoy the time with family and friends. The rehearsal dinner has become a common tradition in weddings but the couple is not obligated to host a rehearsal dinner if they choose not to do so.







