There’s a saying, “be careful what you wish for. You just might get it.” Isn’t it so true? If you know what you want, doesn’t the universe give you the means to achieve it? Think about it. Your dream job, your car, your grades…anything you’ve ever really wanted and were willing to work for, is given to you at the perfect time.

Bet some of you are now going, I want a great looking woman who is kind and sweet. Ladies and gents (for sure some of you ladies were wishing too), it isn’t as simple as that. To make anything come to you, you need to learn to get specific.

Let’s talk about dating. Why are you really in the game? Are you in it just to have fun? Are you in it to find love? Could it be that you are looking for companionship? Whichever the case, you intentions would mean you also have traits that you are looking for.

For example, if all you want is to have fun, then think about what is fun for you and how can this person be a match. Just as if your idea of fun is adventure sports, then a date who is willing to try new sports and may really be into x-games may be who you are looking for.

On the other hand, if you are seriously looking for the person who will be with you for the remainder of your lifetime, what traits would be important to you? Would you like to find someone who is not just a good cook but a chef? Would you like someone who is a great conversationalist? Would you look for someone who is of the same faith?

If you’ll notice, what you’re really looking for is someone who can also be a friend, after all isn’t your mate supposed to be your best friend? In this case, you’d need to truly examine your values and figure out what is really important to you.

Don’t just say you want someone sexy and charming. That is too vague and won’t really helpful in helping you find your match. Even if it’s a bother, be very clear on what you want. The better you know what you look for in a mate, the easier it is to create your personal ad and find dates. You would know exactly what to ask at speed dates and how to recognize if it could possibly this one.