You’ve met the girl of your dreams. She’s absolutely beautiful, drop dead gorgeous, in fact. She is smart and witty and kind. She’s sexy and funny and….in short, she seems absolutely perfect! The only problem is, like the girl from Ipanema, she just doesn’t see you sighing after her.

If you’re really serious about this girl, you need to take stock of your assets and figure out what you have that will attract her attention. For example, if you always see her in the dance clubs you go to, why not ask her to take a spin on the floor. You can show her how well you move on the floor and help her get in the groove.

Why not work on improving yourself while you’re at it. If she’s one who is a fashion plate, then you may want to learn to dress well. You don’t need to buy expensive suits, but do go for colors and cuts that will flatter your body. If you’re not sure how to go about it, you can get some great tips just from watching “Queer Eye for the Straight Guy”.

Women look for more in the men they date than just looks. They’ll check if you have substance as well. Why not hone your conversation skills by reading a book or two. Read the paper and know what’s happening in your community and what’s showing in the movies. This way, if she gives you a clue of what activity she likes, you can jump in with a suggestion of where you can take her to enjoy that event. Don’t be shy about asking her for a date!

Most importantly, pay attention to her. Be genuinely interested in her and what she’s talking about. Listen to what she says and try to find common ground between you. You’re more likely to build a relationship with her if she sees as you as a kindred soul rather than a ship passing in the night.