The way Cher sings it, “If you wanna know if he loves you so it’s in his kiss” and it may be so. The truth is it isn’t that easy to tell. In this time of instant dates and more open values, it is quite easy to be fooled by con men/women that are so good at making you feel like you are the king or queen of their life while they fool around with someone else or just take you for a ride.

Some ways that you can tell that some people are serious about the relationship; they put you through the litmus test: friends and family. For example, single parents will expose you to their kids and check your reaction to the kids’ antics. If you’re invited over to join them on a family activity again is a good sign. If you’re dating someone of a different faith, being asked to attend a family event such as a bar mitzvah can be indicative of the direction your relationship is going; and yes, you’ll be under all those watchful eyes.

Men aren’t as easy to read as women, if you’re the kind who looks for signs. They are really more into fun and games. As one of the boys put it, “It should always be fun. Once it becomes serious, it’s no fun, we say goodbye”. Men aren’t as demonstrative or touchy as women. They aren’t as affectionate verbally, and if they say those three words so fast, doubt it.

The best way to know if he means it is to watch what he does. When a man feels he’s met his match, he’ll do crazy things to get and keep her. They will go out of their way to be where she is and go the extra mile just to make her smile. They will move mountains and not count the cost. They will show you that you are their sun and their moon though they may not say it. So take the time and learn each other’s habits well ‘coz that’s where it is.